Cracking Your Emotional Coding
- Nicole Hope
- Apr 24
- 3 min read
Updated: Apr 24
Ever wonder why you react so strongly to something small?
Or why certain feelings seem to hijack your whole day?
What you believe is running your life. And you didn’t even choose it.
You were programmed (coded) before you had a password. Childhood beliefs. Cultural narratives. Family dynamics. Trauma. School. Religion. Media. All of these life experiences coded your subconscious creating beliefs about how the world works and how you fit into it. All from the perspective of survival.
These aren’t just thoughts. They're filters. They shape what you see, who you trust, how you love, what you tolerate, and whether you think you deserve anything at all.
You think you’re making choices.You’re actually running code. Old code. Corrupted by shame, fear, and your second-grade teacher who said you talked too much. ; )
When your nervous system is dysregulated, these beliefs go DEFCON 1. Everything feels personal. Threatening. Overwhelming. Even when it isn’t. Your body becomes the puppet of your programming.
If you’re always exhausted, overreacting, checked out, or stuck...That’s not laziness. That’s a feedback loop. You’re not broken. You’re looping.
HOW TO START DEPROGRAMMING:
Catch the Echo Listen for the subtle inner narrators — the ones that tell you you’re not enough, not safe, not doing it right.Ask yourself: Whose voice is that? Sometimes it’s your inner critic. Sometimes it’s that kid in fingerpainting class who said your masterpiece looked stupid. Either way, it’s not your higher self or your intuition.
Get Curious, Not Combative When a belief surfaces (“I always mess this up,” “They’re going to leave”), meet it with a raised eyebrow, not a raised fist.Ask: “What am I believing about this moment?” and “Where did that belief get planted?”Think of yourself as a gentle detective — magnifying glass in one hand, compassion in the other.
Regulate to Recode You can’t change your internal programming while your nervous system is lighting up like Times Square.Safety first. That means breathwork, movement, grounding — whatever makes your body say, “Okay, we’re not under siege.”Touch something real. Shake like a wet dog. Lie on the floor and sigh dramatically.It’s not silly. It’s smart. It’s how we return to ourselves.
WHY THIS MATTERS: You feel the way you do not because you’re weak or wrong — but because your system was wired for survival, not peace.
That wiring was smart. It got you through. But now it’s outdated. And peace isn’t something you earn — it’s something you relearn.
That starts with seeing the code. This is the beginning of mental freedom.
Not in a fluffy unicorn way. In a biology-meets-awareness-meets-get-your-life-back way.
If this hit somewhere between your gut and your soul, good. That’s where your real work begins.
While I’m moving into more B2B work (professionals and businesses need deprogramming too), I’m also opening space for a limited number of 1:1 clients again.
If this resonated and you’re feeling ready for deeper integration, I’m currently offering Stress And Overwhelm Recovery Sessions and the full WISE @ Life package — designed to help you identify, unravel, and rewire the subconscious beliefs and behavior patterns holding you back from the tips of your nerves to the tops of your mind.
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